Expect!

How much knowing oneself is important? Will that help us to put ourselves out of misery? Like my sister said, you have to come in terms with yourself. You have to accept the way you are and the way others are. Dont blame someone for your unhappiness. Dont expect someone to keep you happy. Why wld anyone do that for you? Because they are your parents? Because they are your kids? It doesnt work like that. The day you realize you are expecting someone else to keep you happy, is the day you are inviting days of sorrow for Yourself.
Everyone lives for themselves. At the end of the day, they think about the things that will help them grow. And whats wrong in that? This might sound a bit selfish but what you are missing is to understand that we are responsible for our life, not for anyone else's life. You are not accountable to anyone else but you. You are not taking the onus of someone else because you are not meant to do so.
You are meant to take care of yourself first and always, and thats why you have your own brain which does the thinking. If you were to think about others then probably your brains wld be connected. But thats not the way we are constructed. What WE have constructed is a  word 'expect'. And we misuse this word more than any other word (unless you use this word for urself, to challenge your own potential). On the other side, we make the use of this one for everyone else all the time. For Eg. 'I expected you to talk to me', 'I expected you to apologise to me', 'I expected you to react when I said that'. Why? Why so much exaggeration of this word? Shouldn't we know when and where to stop.